Traditionally, weddings have many customs and rules but, today, it is commonly accepted that weddings are primarily about the bride and groom. If you are planning your wedding, you have a right to do it in a way that makes you happy. However, this does not condone being selfish or disrespectful to others. Weddings are an occasion to show thoughtfulness, grace, kindness, and hospitality.As you plan your wedding, consider these traditions to determine what is most comfortable to you and considerate of your family and other guests:

1. Asking permission.
   If possible, asking for permission to marry is a nice gesture to the bride’s father or parents, although it is no longer compulsory in many cultures. Regardless of whether you decide to ask for permission, it is respectful to inform the parents of both the bride and the groom of your intent to marry before announcing it to others.
2. Covering the costs.
   It is said that traditionally, the bride’s parents pay for the wedding; however, that is not necessarily a given. It is quite common for the parents of both the bride and groom to share the costs or for the couple to pay for the wedding themselves. Before making plans, discuss the costs with the parties involved and determine your budget. You may also decide to reduce costs by inviting fewer guests, limiting the number of alcoholic drinks or having a cash bar.
3. Feeding the crowds.
   Weddings and receptions that span the dinner hour generally include a meal and some type of beverage. Although, alcoholic beverages are often expected at weddings, it is no longer a requirement and may be replaced by non-alcoholic punch, water, or tea and coffee. When choosing the food, consider the various diet restrictions that guests may have, including diabetes, vegetarian, vegan, food allergies, and so on. If possible, arrange for a selection of foods so no one is left with nothing they can eat.
4. Planning the entertainment.
   No celebration would be complete without some form of entertainment. When choosing a band or DJ, consider the full age range of the guests. The party will most likely consist of both the young and the elderly – all looking forward to taking part on this happy occasion. Be sure your chosen entertainer can accommodate the entire range of guests.

Your wedding is “your special day” and it will feel even more special when you know that your guests are comfortable and enjoying themselves.