Each month I write about the importance of showing common courtesy towards others in our everyday lives. For the most part, I do believe we all strive to “do our best.”

However, there are times when mitigating circumstances arise that are beyond our control, and we just cannot manage to do all the right things at the right time. This past Christmas, I found myself in just such a situation.

In early December, my Mother phoned me from her home in England. My 88-year-old Father had been admitted to hospital. In that moment, my priorities changed. In a flurry of mixed emotions, bag packing, and phone calls, I quickly rescheduled critical activities and arranged my life so I could catch the next plane out of Vancouver. The well-intended festive notes, Christmas cards and presents remained―still waiting for a hand-written personal note and gift wrap.

I spent the remainder of the month in England reminiscing with family and supporting my parents in any way I could. The season passed and I never did get back to those cards and gifts.  I truly hope that no one has taken offense or been insulted by my transgression, but, as I reflect upon my actions at that time, I know that I would not have done anything differently given the opportunity.

“…there are times when mitigating circumstances arise that are beyond our control, and we just cannot manage to do all the right things at the right time.”

The foundation of good manners starts in the home and radiates to our family, friends, and colleagues along life’s way. As we show consideration, love, and respect for others, we role play good examples to our children and younger members of the family in hope that they too will emulate our actions as they travel life’s journey. Cards and gifts with handwritten notes are one way that we show respect and caring for other people in our lives, but they pale in comparison to being there when someone needs you―and my father and family needed me.

Good manners also allow us to be humble and to accept the compassion and understanding of others in our times of need. I thank you all for your understanding and compassion in my time of need and hope that you also  be blessed with kindness and understanding when you “just cannot manage to do all the right things at the right time.”

Kind regards,
Elizabeth